In case you wondered…..

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yesterday we shared the exciting news that greyson will be a big brother in just six months, making them just 13 months apart.  in case you wondered, yes, this was a planned pregnancy.  as a matter of fact, i was trying for irish twins!  when I was pregnant with greyson, before we knew about his DS diagnosis, we discussed having a second child and soon after due to my age.  once greyson was born and we learned that he had DS the discussion of having another child took place again.  we discussed the pros and cons.  obviously the pros won out because we decided to try again.  I, however, gave the hubby only three months to work his magic, ensuring a summer baby.   I LOVE, ok, am slightly obsessed with summer babies.   all three of my kiddos (OMG, 3 kiddos?!) will have summer birthdays. 🙂   we conceived on our third month of trying.  in case you wondered, yes I have fears that this child with have DS as well.  chances increase by 1% of having another child with DS.  the doctors wanted me to pursue genetic counseling, which I declined.  they really push for amniocentesis, which can cause miscarriage.   as would have been the case with greyson had we known he had DS ahead of time, knowing isn’t going to change our decision.  sidenote:  since the birth of greyson, science/medicine has come a long way.  if you do the math, that’s just seven months!   there is a new, non invasive blood test that detects trisomy 13, 18, and 21 with a 99% accuracy.  no more amniocentesis required!   I took this blood test last wednesday and we will have the results around monday of next week.  we will also know the gender!  in case you wondered why I took the DNA test if it isn’t going to change the outcome, our decision to continue with the pregnancy, simply because greyson’s BIRTH day, a day that was supposed to be the happiest of days, was actually one of the saddest.  I feel guilty about that!  in case you wondered, yes, I worry that having a second child/baby will take away from greyson and the love, help, and attention that he needs.  having said that though, I think having a sibling close in age will be good for him as well.  he will have someone to emulate, learn from….and play with as only siblings can.  in case you wondered, yes, I am crazy for having two young’uns at the ripe OLD age of 41 🙂 

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About greysonandgavinsma

hi. I am the mother of 3 sons, nathan, who is 21 years old, greyson, who is two years old, and gavin, who just turned one. we had a surprise diagnosis of down syndrome at birth with my two year old. this blog is our journey as we navigate the unknown. this blog is like my diary, where I will share my feelings and will keep it as "real" as possible, not holding back, saying exactly what I feel when I feel it. I am hoping my blog will help other parents of special needs children through this journey that we are on.....but it's mostly to help me deal with my emotions, at least right now.

2 responses to “In case you wondered…..

  1. Tammy

    You are very courageous, and I believe this is a story worth sharing for others to read. It brings us to our knees when we have real life events such as this. To fall in love, the desire to start a life with that person, the unconditional love for your child that starts in the womb. Once you feel the baby growing inside you, its apart of you, and no medical tests can make most mothers change their mind about what the best decision is. This is life, the emotions, the joys. We don’t have long on earth and we have to make it count. The new baby bring you even more joy, and will be the lucky one to be born to such a good family. Of course I’m biased since your a long time friend. Haha! I’m happy for you and your husband.

    • adventureswithgreyson

      Awwww, thank you so much Tammy. Your words meant a lot….because they are true 🙂 and sincere :). While I’m scared of what the results will be, it won’t change my love for my child. After all, I think I love Greyson even more because of it 🙂

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